Distinction of Civil and Church Marriage

The Benefits of Civil Marriage and the Importance of Church Marriage

Marriage  

Is an agreement of between the man and woman as husband and wife that requires proper commitment of each individual. 

Marriage is also a contract between persons that is distinguished by religious tradition and cultural practice.

Nowadays marriage is easy to make it happen because actually anyone with the position in the community especially in the government has the right to be engaged in civil marriage. 

Like for instance, town mayor he/she implement civil marriage. It is usual for judges to do this activity and this is really their job. It has a lot of beneficiaries or advantages in choosing civil marriage.

Costs are cheap

If you are a type of a person who has priorities instead of spending only in marriage but you divert it to much more important like buying lots for instance. 

More of the case if you engage in civil marriage only the important people can attend like the witnesses, parents of the wife and husband so costs is less. 

Whereas church or when held in crowded celebration you will pay the costs in venues or the reception where your visitors can eat, the food, drinks, wedding dress, souvenirs, cakes and many more extra costs.

 In addition to costs, like paying church fees ( priest, lights, choir and etc.), decoration at church, decorations in the reception venue, the documents that requires in the church are too many and it is very costly, Seminars too many in church wedding.

After the marriage instead of being happy the condition will be different it turns to frustration due to huge costs that you bear will pull you down. 

On the other side, before deciding to spend enormous amount it is better to plan ahead of time and save a lot of money that will not affect your income. And set percentage savings for the marriage. This will be more light way to prevent depression.

Process of paper requirements is abrupt and manageable

If both parties of the individuals are single, you get married one week before the completion of the requirements. 

Unlike, those who experienced marriage before it is a little bit complicated because it’s need to settle the previous union before entering the new marriage. Further to that complication, still civil marriage is recommended to prefer. 

No seminars at all

This is an advantage to those who engage in day job. In seminars demand time and if the event happens on working days the work will behind. Time is wasted and the income of the day will perish.

In the church marriage it is mysterious but special ceremony and a very conservative and it is cherished by old generation/creation. This way of marriage is based on formalities but it is actually depends on what is the person’s point of view. 

In other way of concept, every individual can hold formal ceremonies because they also measure their comfort zone, the special place and how it blends the style of the ceremony. 

In church marriage, some people might say there is a big blessing because the priest is the instrument of God the father’s consecration. 

Another is, Self Pride- the church is a large place to walk down the aisle so; it is in the mind and the perception of a person that church wedding is great. It satisfies the total self individual happiness and fulfillment. 

To choose in church marriage, it manifests the religion and to furnish high value to more religious people and them appreciate it because they believe from the bottom of their hearts.

Lastly, it is very important to give high gratitude of culture and tradition and of what tribe you belong to maintain the group or the members of the family’s peacefulness and satisfaction, but still it’s always have the balance in implementing to those traditions in choosing what is right and wrong. 

Marriage is an important instrument, to measure faithfulness, commitment, responsibility and leadership in building a new family in the community as a wife and a husband rule.
Good luck! Thank you.

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How to Stay Focused on your Goals on your way to Success

If there is one trait that I should have, I would choose the ability to stay “focused”. This is very important to attain success and happiness in your life. Without focus, the road to success will be as blurred as the fog and as dark as the mud. Lack of focus makes you become an inefficient team player, a slow problem solver and a weak person playing in the field.
Attaining focus is NOT simple; it requires a lot of things that involves sacrifice, commitment, patience and work endurance. Below are some tips that you can try (I personally tried this myself and they are indeed very effective):

Tip#1: STRICTLY Do ONLY ONE thing at a TIME – if someone advises you to do multi-tasking; they are just wasting your time. Don’t believe in them. A human person can only execute one job at a time at its best effort. Yes a multi-tasking can make you do many things at the same time BUT YOU CAN ONLY EXAMINE, ANALYZE, INVESTIGATE AND STUDY ONE ASPECT OF THE TASKONE AT A TIME.
If you do not believe me, try to do many things at once, and you will see that you can only examine them one at a time (it is because you have one pair of eyes, one pair of hands and one brain).
So in reality- multi-tasking is an enemy of focus, it distracts you from examining a certain task with details. Examining task in details are key ingredients to quality, faster work and outstanding job.



Tip#2: Write your tasks in a piece of paper and TRACK the progress on a daily basis- Why? It is very hard to focus when you are not tracking your progress. You should know the answers to the following questions:
a.) What work or tasks that are needed to complete this project?
b.) What tasks that is already completed?
c.) What are my scheduled tasks for today, tomorrow and for the coming days/weeks?
d.) Am I behind on schedule or on-target for this project?
If you cannot answer the above questions because you are not listing your tasks, you are not scheduling your work or not tracking progress; then it is impossible to stay on focus.

Tip#3: Motivate yourself – Motivation plays a strong role in focus. For example, a student who is not motivated in his/her studies will also find it very hard to focus on studying the lessons. Find something that can motivate you in doing the work. May it be inspiration, reason to live, challenge, happiness, etc. As long as it is positive, it will keep you motivating and help you to stay o focus. You can read my tips on how to stay motivated on accomplishing your goals.

Tip#4: Stay away from distractions – have you tried working on a very special, difficult and time-consuming project one night and then the neighbor is playing their very loud music? Situations like this can be VERY hard to stay focused, because the noise itself is very distracting to your concentration when working the project. Look for some quite place where you can concentrate working.

Tip#5: Drink coffee or tea before starting a work – these beverages contain caffeine which helps you to become mentally and physically active when working. This will take out the sluggishness and a little sleepiness (if you are too sleepy; you need to sleep before you should work). If you are concerned about the amount of caffeine, then drink green tea because it has lower amount of caffeine.

Tip#6: Know your attention span carefully – some people can work for 8 straight hours without stopping or resting. But some people can only work for as long as one hour and then feel exhausted. Attention span to your work varies with different people. You should know your attention span and take breaks between it (like coffee breaks). It is ok to have that short attention span as long as you have diverted 100% of your effort in completing the work (of course also following the other tips mentioned above such as doing one task at a time). 
For example my attention span is only 3 hours. So after working 3 straight hours, I should take a break. Then go back to work after one hour (as long as you feel you are re-energized to back to work) to work for another 3 hours non-stop 100% concentration. If you break your attention span and continue working non-stop, you will become bored and exhausted. Then it will be very hard to stay on focused.


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